Thursday Thanks. Helping #7.

Happy Thursday. It is still Thursday in California where I’m curled up in my Thanksgiving Chair tonight.

Thanksgiving Chair

It’s already August 1st, but it’s still summer. And it’s still pro baseball season. Thank goodness.

I never thought I’d say that I’m thankful for baseball. I grew up dancing and cheering and singing Broadway. Each Saturday morning, there was a melody for my mood–from “The Music of the Night” to “Don’t Rain on my Parade.” There were buns and bobby pins and pom poms. And now? Now there are cleats and cups and coolers.

I’d never touched a pair of cleats. Then, just like that, I was responsible for making sure they were laced and velcroed. And fast. Just like that, I was sitting in the stands cheering Slugger Tucker on.

T Wade

Case shared a spot in the shade with me while Jeff helped coach on the field. But games are long for a baby brother who just wants a team of his own. So, sometimes he would sneak beneath the bleachers and watch from the fence.

biggest fan

Maybe it’s because Jeff has brainwashed encouraged us to pull for our hometown team. Maybe it’s the silly songs & snacks & stats. We’ve all caught the baseball bug. I mean, how can you not be smitten with a sport that’s not timed? Anything can happen.

yay Rays

And our team, the Rays, hosts family fun days with giveaways for kids. Growing loyal fans, one freebie at a time.

pasttime

The Rays even celebrate the ultimate fan combinations.

Disney Digression
Disney Digression

And, when they win, they’re proud to let the world (at least the city) know.

victory

It’s always fun to cheer on the Rays live at the Trop (where it’s always a balmy 72 degrees). But we usually watch them at home. Home is where I love baseball because we’re in a baseball state of mind. We catch a few bits of the game but, because there are so many, it’s really okay if we don’t see the entire thing. A game is always on, but our weekend doesn’t revolve around one. Instead of “5 more minutes” bedtime is “at the end of this inning.”

This week, we sign the boys up–both of them–for fall ball. Two teams. Two practices. Two games on Saturdays. The new season and school year will be in full swing. Not yet though.

For now, it’s still summer. Like baseball, this summer season is play-paced. It’s that unhurried moment, sandwiched between the chaos of school years, when we’re not timed. It’s a pseudo pause button that means Tucker isn’t in second grade yet, Case isn’t in VPK yet and we can snuggle on the couch for just one more out.

watching ball

Table Topic Tuesday. 7/30.

Gooood morning. It’s already Table Topic Tuesday time.

Ready?

July 30th

My first thought was that there isn’t any incriminating evidence of my ridiculous fashion path–not digitally, anyway. But just in case–just for you–I asked my Mom if she had any pictures of my bangs. She did.

See, I’m a child of the 80s.

Disney Digression
Disney Digression

I layered a neon spectrum of scrunchy socks. And I still love fun socks.

I rocked the Blossom hat. And I still love wearing hats.

I pulled my T-shirts through a plastic circle to lock them in place. That tee tie may have been a fashion fail, but it was pure function.

And then there were the bangs. It started in elementary school.

bangs

And they got bigger.

Now, my Mom is a classy-chic lady. She’d never steer me wrong. No. Back then, those bodacious bangs were everything.

big bangs

Don’t feel guilty about laughing. I pitched a silly over this one. My bangs were so big, they had their own shadow. Minus that, I love everything else about this picture.

bang shadowI remember curling half of the bangs back and half of the bangs forward and then cementing them in place–on purpose.

I know that fashion is full-circle, but let’s hope this style wonder never comes round again.

Now that I’ve admitted my tress distress, it’s Lindsay‘s turn:

In my early years, I was quite the trend-setter… or so I thought. Before baggy jeans were cool, I sported them. Before the original black and white-striped Adidas sneaks were sported by every hipster in the halls, I told my mom I just had to have them. And waaaaay before those plastic, stretchy choker necklaces were coveted by all middle school girls, I made them happen — even in gym class. Yes, my style has evolved quite nicely over the years, and I’m sure I’ll look back in 10 or 15 more years and curse the day I bought wedges. But you just never know.

I have to know–what so-cool trends trapped you?

Build-up to a birthday

Tucker turns 7 this year, but this year he had his very first birthday party.

Because he has a summer birthday (and because I never want to test the elements again) he agreed on an indoor shindig. And because our daily reality goes something like this:

Keep Calm

We went with a Lego theme. There are Star Wars Legos. Super Hero Legos. Ninja Legos. Tucker could be content to manipulate, build, deconstruct and re-imagine with Legos for hours. And there just happens to be a place in town that specializes in Lego Birthdays. Can I get a whoop whoop?

So, we sent out invitations.

Photo by: Valerie Bogle
Photo by: Valerie Bogle

And I pilfered Pinterest. There are fab freebie printables out there. My favorites were the labels we wrapped around Powerade.

prep

Yup. I referenced the deuce.

Now, at our house, I’m always the potty-words police. You have to regulate with two little boys, so I usually poo poo the ew talk. But for Tucker, this was the ultimate hilarity. This and the whoopie cushions for the goodie bags.

goodie bags

With another free printable, we made a mask for each guest.

Masks

And we filled an assorted collection of glass jars with an assortment of white, yellow and red candy. To be all Lego-y.

color coordinated candy

Then, it was party time. Bricks 4 Kidz was ready to celebrate the birthday boy.

signs

The venue is a comfy old home they’ve transformed into a play palace. Each room hosts a new building opportunity. So, the only thing I had to do was set up the food table. With my sweet Mom’s help, that was a piece of cake. Or donut.

table 2

table 1
Lego candy was a must. You can eat it and build with it. A chance to play with your food? 7-year-old heaven.

Tucker’s buds jumped right in to playing while we waited on all the guest to arrive. (I need a table like this for our house.)

table play

When all of his friends were there, we started the first activity–an outdoor Lego relay. Then everyone trooped back inside for the first build–an electric Lego car.

electric cars

I’ve never seen such a polite and patient group of little people. Their fingers were twittering between parts and pieces and they shouted encouragement to teams across the table. Tuck, my thoughtful and meticulous one, was in his element with his favorite friends. Then, as the final ta-da, their motorized creations actually moved with the touch of a button. Legos have come a long way, folks.

After everyone’s vehicle had its victory jaunt, it was time for Happy Birthday.

singing

Tucker chose donuts over cake, which was just fine with me. And I know a few kids reached for seconds (and thirds). Sorry, parents.

Disney Digression
Disney Digression

A-buzz with sweets, it was back to the building blocks. This time, they each built a car they got to keep. So, the selection process was a serious business.

Notice which two goofs are the only ones who kept the masks on? Those would be mine.
Notice which two goofs are the only ones who kept the masks on? Those would be mine.
Birthday Boy
Birthday Boy

When each oh-so-carefully-constructed car was complete, we hit the high note. They got to race their creations side-by-side.

racing 1

racing 2

The acoustics in that old house were built for lego car racing. Those few minutes of high-fiving and hollering made the room sing. And my boy’s excitement was electric.

But, we only had an hour and a half. So, after the races, there were goodie bags and good-byes.

goodie bag table

I asked the boys and their Marmee (grandma) if they had a good time. And this was their response:

expressions

Lucky seven. Lucky me.

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Table Topic Tuesday. 7/23.

Happy Tuesday, y’all. It’s already Table Topic Tuesday time.

Drum roll, please……

7.23

This is a fun question. I’ve officially been driving more than half my life. Gulp. So, there were a lot of roads to retrace. Highways, tunnels, bridges, dirt roads, non roads. And there’s a lot of beautiful in my rear view.

There were many miles logged on the Blue Ridge Parkway.

Parkway

Salt-of-the-earth simple. The biggest quiet you’ll ever hear. Yummiest air you’ll ever breathe.

Parkway 2

Now that I’m gone to Carolina in my memory’s lane, let’s go to the South Carolina Low Country. Here, we were lucky locals. We drove down the Battery, but we also biked it, at least once a month. This street is the stuff Southern stories are made of.

Battery

“Beautiful” is flexible word, right? I think I can stretch it to cover this guy.

south of the border

Seeing him means we’re en route to reunite with family or friends.

And I’m always in awe every single time we drive into THE city.

NY city

Although my best drive, as a passenger, was in a Tomorrowland Speedway race car. That was a beautiful thing.

Disney Digression
Disney Digression

Now as a Floridian, I feel like all of Florida is one palm tree-lined postcard. Even my commute is lovely.

And, shocker, I’m going to totally sap out. But there’s one road I’m always the most happy to turn down and that’s the one that goes home.

home

It’s always paved with promise.

the hood

And here’s Lindsay. ( I love this.)

I love and dislike this question. It makes me thankful for all the beautiful places I’ve been lucky enough to visit, but sad because all I really want to do right now is hop in my car and pay them a visit again.
 
One of my favorite drives to take is down the 1 mile private road to my grandparents’ lake house in New Jersey. The lake off to the right. The houses to the left — some hidden on a hill or behind the trees. The sun trying to shine through the canopy of trees that cover almost the full mile. It says, “Welcome home. Welcome back.” every time I make the drive. Even if just for coffee in the morning. Twenty summers in a row I spent there. Driving back and forth, back and forth. Up and down the lake road — my lake road. The one with a 17 mph speed limit and stone pillars guarding its entrance. The same stone pillars after which it was unofficially accepted and expected that you take your seat belt off and enjoy the lake road breeze. We always say our camp has the best spot — second last on the one mile road. And I never fully appreciated that drive until the past few years when I could no longer spend a full season soaking it up. Estling Lake Road means a lot to me, and it’s the most beautiful and wonderful road I’ve ever traveled.
Jersey mile
Your turn. What’s the most beautiful drive you’ve ever taken?

Thursday Thanks. Helping #5.

Happy Thursday, folks. I’m sitting in my Thanksgiving Chair now and my cup runneth over.

Thanksgiving Chair

This will be quick (I’ll explain why next week). But I couldn’t let a Thursday roll by without saying thanks to these two.

parents

Meet my parentals: Cindy & Jim.

Mom is the kind of mom who, when you have your first baby, welcomes you home with a full-on Thanksgiving meal that’s months early and right on time. She’s the kind of mom who packs you, for your trip–not hers, arranging every article of clothing between tissue paper like a Tetris maestro. She’s a doer and a mover and a shaker. More than anything, she is my oldest, truest, biggest fan.

Dad is the kind of dad who writes your family’s lexicon. He knows the book is always, always better. He doesn’t talk about character. He lives it. And he introduces you to magic.

Disney Digression
Disney Digression

Today, every day, I’m grateful to be a fusion of these two unreal people.

Who are you thankful for today?

Table Topic Tuesday. 7/16.

It’s Table Topic Tuesday!

And today’s question is nice and light.

7:16

I’m a sucker for strum-able strings. From hymns to hip hop, I love the way everything sounds on an acoustic guitar. Ukulele, mandolin. My love language.

Disney Digression
Disney Digression

But I’d rather be the audience than the player.

If I could master any instrument, I’d have to choose my voice. I already wail in the car, in the kitchen, in the shower. I sing lullabies every night. I hum–often unconsciously, often in public. Since singing is second nature, I’d love to have a gift.

My sweet friends weighed in, too.

From the desk of Lynda:

I’ve always wanted to play the piano, and when I say always, I mean always.  I remember wishing my mom would send me to piano lessons, but being as painfully shy as I was, I didn’t have the courage to ask her or tell her it’s what I wanted.  If I did mention it, it was probably a passing comment and she thought nothing of it, a phase perhaps.  Needless to say, it’s a major regret.  I did learn a few songs here and there when I was younger – Chopsticks and Mary Had a Little Lamb – even the theme to Jeopardy at one point.  But alas, these fingers never tickled the ivories in a manner I would’ve liked.  And in the grand scheme of things that’s probably okay, as I was never one to put myself in front of a crowd – piano recitals, no thank you.
 

To me, the sound of a piano can be magical.  It’s a sound like no other to me, and when I hear the different notes coming together to make such a masterpiece of music, it’s beautiful.  The well-known musical pieces from Beethoven and Bach are wonders to the ears, and I jealously watch as other people’s fingers move so swiftly and effortlessly across the keys.  It’s such a talent, and one I wish desperately I possessed.  So perhaps I’ve added something to my bucket list – piano lessons for adults – surely that’s a thing right?

From the desk of Lindsay:

I like to think of myself as a creative person. I’m a writer. I have at least three pens and two Sharpie markers {in varying colors} with me at all times. I doodle during meetings {don’t tell on me}. And I belt it like Beyonce in the car on the way to…anywhere. But if there’s one thing I can’t do, it’s play instruments. I tooted the recorder in elementary school, I tried the soprano saxophone in middle school, and I think my mom finally gave up on me in high school. I wish she hadn’t because if there’s one instrument that I’ve always wanted to play like an angel, it’s the piano. My mom is a great piano player — aren’t all moms really great at playing the piano? That’s totally a mom thing, isn’t it? I have great memories of her playing songs from “Phantom of the Opera” and “The Sound of Music” when I was younger. Then again, who wouldn’t want to be just like their biggest and best role model? 
Your turn! What instrument would you master?

Silly Stuff

I’m just popping in for a moment today to share one quick thought.

Silliness is underrated.

Can you remember the last time you laughed so hard that you lost physical control? In my family, we call this fabulous phenomenon “pitching a silly.” It consumes me a lot less often than I’d like. But when I pitch a silly, I cry, I snort, I sound a lot like a barking cat. Wrap your head around that for a second.

I’ve laughed more in the last 24 hours than I have in months.

I’ve been thinking a lot about this.

green

And this.

subtract

And that led to this.

fireworks

I pitched such an awesome silly last night–in public–that I literally almost tinkled a little.

When the day is saturated in seriousness, the one thing we may need is pure, old-fashioned silliness.

What does your silly look like?

Disney Digression Parade:

Stitch

Thumper

Jimminy

King Louie

Thursday Thanks. Helping #4.

Oh, hi.

Coming to you live from my Thanksgiving chair.

Thanksgiving Chair

This week has been a stress swarm. Don’t you love how these come at you? Like a fastball screaming towards your face. No time to duck.

C’est la vie? Oui.

So, this week, I’m thankful that I get to hug my parents soon. I’m thankful that a Disney fix is so close I can taste it (Disney Digression).

And, let’s be real, I’m grateful for caffeine. I’m a full-blown addict and I’ll take it any way I can get it. Hot. Iced. Chocolate-covered (beans, of course). At home, we brew whatever is BOGO at Publix. My just-right cup is strong with a generous swirl of half & half.

I really appreciate the mom & pop coffee shops, too. Now I like Starbucks just as much as the next hipster, but there’s something so comfy about a small joe space. A café latte is my pretty sip of choice. Oh, I love the pretty.

Birch Coffee, NYC
Birch Coffee, NYC

Work is hard. Parenting is harder. Life? Hardest.

In the middle of weeks like this, I’m thankful for my job. I play with words, for a brand that I love, and I get to wear jeans and tennies while I do it. It’s a pretty rad gig.

feet

What are y’all thankful for today? Let me know!

The Peru Chronicles

Last week, I told y’all about my travel journals. I like to write on the road. This started back in college when I traveled to South America. So, now that it’s fresh on my brain, I thought I’d share a little from my very first Detour Diary.

Across the pond, my girlfriends were drinking in the culture with a few chummy Brits in A Friend At Hand—a celebrated local pub. Downstream, I was unearthing the roots of Perú, sniffing bits of tree bark with a shaman and the inhospitable mosquitoes of the Amazon.

An Interim month between semesters at Wofford College gave us a chance to study abroad for four weeks. My closest friends chose a tour of Europe. Me? I picked Perú.

I was ready to ink my passport. Ready for newness. Ready to go. So I emptied my savings, packed my suitcase and went far away to get close to something I couldn’t name.

Before that trip, my inner outdoor girl had romantic musings about being face-to-face with nature.

Disney Digression
Disney Digression

That was before I flew down a zip line. That month in Perú was a month of firsts, all documented in handwritten notes. I wrote about my first fishing excursion, a hunt for piranha in the Amazon. In a homemade canoe, we baited a tree limb with fatty, raw chicken. When I felt a definite tug, I jerked the pole out of the water and the flesh-eating fish flew over the boat in an arc, nearly knocking a fellow student over. So, I flung it over again and almost knocked our guide, Victor, out. While the fish was flying above us, Victor (and our boat) shook with giggles. To validate my spasticness, I said in Spanish (what I thought was) that the fish back home don’t have teeth. What I really said was that the fishermen back in the States don’t have teeth. Victor laughed like heck.

I wrote about my first camping expedition—an overnight stay in the rainforest in a leaky tent where our guide gave me something like a Tarot card reading. “Love,” she said. “I see a lot of love.”

Machu Picchu
Machu Picchu

I wrote about my first mountain climb. When we reached the Sun Gate, breathless from the thin air and exhaustion and wonder, a rainbow met us at the top. It reached over Machu Picchu, sleeping below, and in a still second I felt the presence of every soul who had walked the path before me. None of our pictures captured the pure hues of the moment, but that rainbow felt hand placed to congratulate us.

Sun Gate
Sun Gate

It was a three-hour cruise across Lake Titicaca from Puno to Amantani Island where our group split up and stayed with native families. Two of us were assigned to Norma, a girl our age or younger. She didn’t speak to us at first as she led us to her home unless she was motioning for us to come. We navigated the treacherous stone path slowly, passed pigpens and a woman tending sheep. Flimsy Spanish was our only form of communication. But more was gained than lost in translation when Norma introduced us to her fatherless newborn daughter. She wrapped the baby in multiple blankets and slung her onto her back, freeing her hands to make us dinner. I remembered Norma years later the first time I tried to swaddle the fierce-flailing limbs of my infant son.

brand new Tucker

I’ve re-lived my Interim to Perú so many times through those journals—a time I wrote for me, wrote my life, wrote to discover.

When I have an assignment, I sit at my computer surveying the possibilities in the letters under my fingers, selecting words like you choose an apple at the grocery store. I pick them up, rotate them in my hand, scanning for bruises, imperfections. I’m writing for someone else—for clients, for creative directors, for praise—delivering a bundle of pretty words. Sometimes, I hear a stranger’s voice offering me slick apples. But in my travel journals, I detail the most basic human things. It’s me talking. My voice is in the discolored, banged up apple. And there I am, honest and vulnerable, in that brown spot.

I emailed bits from my journals to my roommate, communicating across continents through Internet cafes. She was bringing home an Italian leather purse, photos of the Louvre, chocolate. I was bringing home an alpaca sweater, a few new freckles and a handmade doll.

The doll has lost its smell now, but if you press your nose into the black yarn hair, you can almost smell Perú —new mornings in the Andes, warm incense in the one-room adobe brick homes, centuries-old springs plashing over mossy stones, mist you can taste.

I bought her in a valley of the velvet-green mountains where the villagers peddled their crafts. One small one caught my eye and she scrunched her nose at me as if we shared a fun secret. I motioned to the doll she cradled like a baby and found the Spanish to ask her how much.

“Quince solace,” she whispered, tracing a circle in the earth with a bare toe. “O dulces.” Money or candy. After she gave me the doll, she reached above her head, pink palms open for payment. I recognized the empty, upturned palms—starving for something smooth, sweet. Something.

I didn’t find a something in Perú. Fumbling through so-called Spanish, I became a teeny more fluent in humanity. I found, in a world away, a familiar seeking, searching—a shared need for something more.

Towards the end of our trip, after a week in the Amazon, I remember us running like children through the streets of Iquitos to the store. There, we held our hands open, palms up, for the cups of native ice cream, cool on our tongues after the sting of rainforest juices.

Thursday Thanks. Helping #3.

I’m happy to curl up in my Thanksgiving chair today.

Thanksgiving Chair

So much to be thankful for. Like our family’s Friday movie night. I’m way outnumbered in this house and we watch a lot of Star Wars. But last Friday we settled on The Lion King. Woot! For a skinny minute (the boys can’t sit for long because they like to act out the scenes) we were all snuggled and still on the couch. Whole.

We talked Jeff into replaying this epic beginning a few times on full blast. Movie magic.

Lion King
Disney Digression

Any takers on the lyrics? (No Googling!).

This is my favorite way to sing it is:

NAhhhhh, Savannah. Motorola! Mitsubishi, Honda! You’re singing now aren’t you?

And, speaking of magic, I snapped this pretty shot of our street this week.

street

I’m guilty of slipping into house envy and saying,  too often, “We need new carpet. We need a new dishwasher. We need a pantry that was not designed by a man!” No we don’t.

We have this.

flag

1491 square feet of messy, crazy, love-worn fun. It’s home. A home where we’re free to learn and play and worship any way we please. Thank goodness.

Here’s to sweet freedom and the greatest home on earth.

What are you thankful for this July 4th Thursday?